Spiritual growth has its roots in spaces that please us
While Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Japanese gardening may seem unlikely bedfellows at first glance, there are interesting parallels between the two concepts!
The Internal Family System was developed by Richard Schwartz, it is a therapeutic approach that describes the human psyche as consisting of different parts - the parts are seen as distinct snapshots of experiences and ages within an individual’s mind, each with its own unique characteristics, functions and objectives!
By adopting an IFS model we can cultivate harmony and balance among the parts, allowing for self-discovery, healing, and personal growth. Rather like trimming and weeding an overgrown ‘garden’ to give light to shadier areas. Within that space we can reveal, note beauty and address what could thrive there. To appreciate what exists historically in the ‘garden’ and help it thrive is to address and admire the space in between.
Similarly, Japanese gardening, particularly the attention to how each part works with one another in bonsai or the overview of a Zen garden, reflects a harmonious integration of numerous, sometimes contrasting elements. Japanese gardens are meticulously designed to evoke a sense of tranquility, balance, and harmony. Each element, such as plants, stones, water features, pathways are carefully placed to create cohesion and something visually appealing. The goal is to create a serene and contemplative environment that promotes inner peace and mindfulness. The goal of a serene, contemplative person is to promote inner peace and mindfulness by a cohesive noting and appreciation of the parts of the psyche. Just like the zen garden though, to contrive too much is to risk something feeling at odds or incongruent.
In both IFS and Japanese gardening, there is an emphasis on recognising and honouring the unique qualities of each element or part. By acknowledging and exploring the different parts within ourselves are we not appreciating the distinct characteristics of plants and stones in a garden? Both approaches emphasize the importance of embracing diversity and fostering integration. There are no bad parts in IFS, just as there are no bad plants in the world…it’s the space and position we offer them. An orchid can be a weed if it grows in a space that restricts other plants.
Both IFS and zen gardening invite individuals to engage in a process of self-reflection and self-awareness. In IFS, this involves understanding and communicating with various internal parts to promote our healing and growth. In Japanese gardening, it may involve meditative practices or simply observing and appreciating the beauty of the garden, which can lead to a deeper understanding of oneself and the world.
Ultimately, they share common principles of harmony, integration, and self-discovery. Both offer unique avenues for individuals to explore their inner worlds and find greater well-being and connectedness. Where IFS talks about the space between parts as self, Japanese garden design considers the space as important, e.g., ma’ or the harmonious gap between things that as spiritual viewers we simply sense as feeling awe and wonder when something resonates. I feel the same thing when I see it in a human.
